Every year, our group gathers to celebrate the Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons – we call it “Thanksmas.” We get together in November because December is just too busy; and, as mental health professionals, we know better than to over schedule! 😉 These celebrations are always a highlight for me, and I was thinking about what makes them special…
I’ve decided it’s the people. I am surrounded by good friends and colleagues for whom I have profound respect. Our conversations are generally funny (with plenty of dry humor) and thoughtful. We can talk about topics ranging from embarrassing Christmas memories to the #metoo movement, being vulnerable and intellectually stimulating simultaneously. I’m pretty sure most people don’t have this experience at their office holiday party, and I am supremely grateful!
But I’m not writing this just to say how awesome we are (even though we are). I’m writing this because I know how powerful it is to ponder, and I want you to know it, too. I’m actually writing this to emphasize my experience of remembering—not the experience itself. While I’m thinking about those evenings with conversations and good food, I feel GOOD! Bringing up these positive experiences helps me enjoy today even though it’ll be a year before we celebrate another “Thanksmas.”
What are you pondering? Are your to-do lists running through you mind? Are you rehashing an awkward conversation? Are you wondering how you’re going to pay your January credit card bill after gift shopping? None of these things are bad or wrong. But they have their place, and it’s your job to put them there.
If you want to enjoy this holiday season and make sure you’re spending time intentionally pondering good memories! If you don’t have a lot of good memories to choose from, then it’s time to create some!